I told my husband I was still angry. There was no discussion, he just acted skulky then after dinner made feeble attempts to "make nice" by doing little things like bringing me the dirty dishes.
Does he just not get it? A text saing, "I'm sorry. I don't want to fight" does not make everything ok! Helping me a little with the dishes does not make it ok!
It's about him acting like I am stealing his money, so he had to get at it before I could. Ahem, not stealing your money! I was going to pay the power bill, the phone bill, the water bill!
If he feels like he has no discretionary income, that's because I have set up his 401k so we can have a nice life in retirement instead of buying this and that (ie useless crap he buys on eBay) now. Investing in the 401k also reduces his taxable income & saves him money, if he would care enough to know.
But no, he leaves it all to me to do and then wants to bitch about it and accuse me of not doing enough. I know I am not lazy. I am doing as much as I can.
I am seriously thinking about signing us up for Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University, and if he won't go, it's over.
I can be poor without him but with less stress.
To give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he has a nice anniversary or birthday gift lined up for me, but I doubt it. He should also know me well enough by now to know I prefer the security of having bills paid instead of a fancy gift.
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